“I will not be a pain in the neck.”
Do I live by FOMO or YOLO?
FOMO – Fear of Missing Out
FOMO was coined in the 2013 Webster dictionary as “the uneasy and sometimes all-consuming feeling that you’re missing out – that your peers are doing, in the know about, or in possession of more or something better than you”.
“Stop paying so much attention to how others around you are doing” is easy advice to give, but hard to follow, because the evidence of how others are doing is pervasive, because most of us seems to care a great deal about status, and finally, because access to some of the most important things in life (for example, the best collegs, the best jobs, the best houses in the best neighbourhoods) is granted only to those who do better than their peers. Nonetheless, social comparison seems sufficiently destructive to ur sense of well-being that it is worthwhile to remind ourselves to do it less. Barry Shwartz – The Paradox of Choice: Why More is Less
Jealousy is all the fun you think they had. Erica Jong
Your happiness is determined by how you allocate your attention. What you attend to drives our behaviour and it determines your happiness. Attention is the glue that holds your life together. The scarcity of attentional resources means that you must consider how you can make and faicliate better decisions about what to pay attention to and in what ways. If you are not as happy as you could be, then you must be misallocating your attention. So changing behaviour and enhancing happiness is as much about withdrawing attention from the negative as it is about attending to the positive. Research shows that gratitude is arguably the king of happiness. The more a person is inclined to gratitude, the less likely he or she is to be depressed, anexious, lonely, envious or neurotic. Paul Dolan – Happiness by Design, Change what You do, Not How You Think.
May I appreciate what I have.
May I not compare myself with others.
May I have gratitude for all my life.
May I spread love and light to others in the world.
YOLO – You Only Live Once
What is left undone in my life with my family?
What is left undone with a friend?
What is left undone for you to do before you die?
What Our Members are Saying
A few yours ago life pitched me a curve ball. My son was injured badly and consequently started on the road of using drugs. Everyday I thought he might die. I thought this couldn’t happen to us, such a loving and “together” family–all stereotypes went out the window. All I could do was ponder obsessively about what had gone wrong. There were no answers. No shoulders wide enough to lean on, no safe place.
I turned to Meditation and Buddhism and spent the next 6 years meditating, in retreats and praying for our karma to change. Well, in turn it did, but what really changed was me. I found some answers in the knowledge that everything is meant to be and we cannot control it. All we can do is look after our own mental health and model a calm and healthy way of living for those around us.
Years ago I was a part of the Fitness Group and Barb always empowered us with life lessons. Recently I have found her again and now she also speaks of SPIRITUAL PATHS and OUR ESSENCE.
It is all making more sense. I won’t say things are perfect—well I guess they are, and when they don’t look that way, I know I need to connect to meditation and yoga. One thing we all know for sure is that everything is temporary. It was only when I admitted that my son may actually die when things started to change. I had completely “let go” of the outcome of life, I had surrendered to our unknown destiny. And now I truly believe that seemingly bad things that happen, suffering or such, are NOT bad at all— but rather, blessings, granted to us to help us grow in all kinds of ways.